How to beTotally Miserable in life, in Six easy steps !

     Do you know people who, no matter how fortunate they are, who seem to be miserable ALL the time ? That was a rhetorical question , I know you do. Some we know personally, you have worked with them, have them as relatives and you may be one. [ I do hope not ].
     You can pass them on the street or see them in stores and can almost see a gray "aura" and smell the "sour" emanating from them. We all have moods, and bad days, but some folks are forever in a "funk".
I have a relative that every time their mouth opens a negative thought or comment comes out. They can't stand being happy or at least contented. It is as if they would owe the world something or would have something you could take from them if they admitted to being anything other than miserable.
     For example, this person just got a job, which is a rare thing for them, I called to congratulate [trying to be encouraging and positive] their response, "Now I have to get up at 6AM every morning to get to work on time." [ my Mom's country expression was "They wouldn't be happy if you hung'em with a NEW rope"].
      I realize that some people have had a rough life, beset by misfortune and trouble, but I bet if you were able to examine the source of some of that "trauma" you would find that one of the issues below was at least a part of the problem. [we are often our own worst enemies]
    
I personally, am a "glass half full" person, that way I know I can look forward to more coming !

1) Pride. Spiritual pride, social pride -This doesn't seem to fit does it ? But think about it, some people think they are so special and so superior that finding joy in life's simple pleasures is beneath them.The smile of a child nor a hello from a stranger have no value to them.
2) Insecurity. Insecure people aren't willing to take risks. They complain about their lot in life, yet they're afraid to embrace change and do something about it. They prefer to remain uncomfortable.[I was recently selected to be in a movie in which I had to wear heavy robes in the heat,I would not have dared to complain, I new the deal when I said yes to the job.]
3) Moodiness. Moody people are like the wind - you don't know which way they'll blow. You can't depend on them. Confidence is never built on a person who's fickle. People avoid them,and they get to say "I don't know why I have no friends."
4) Perfectionism. Perfectionism is the obsessive need to perform flawlessly. It stifles your creativity, and turns others off. Perfectionists can't affirm themselves, therefore it's difficult for them to affirm anybody else.
This one is easy, no one else EVER does or says the right thing.
5) Over-sensitivity. Over-sensitive people are always licking their wounds and looking inward; as a result, they're unaware of the needs of others. Ironically, they never understand why they're so lonely.It ain't always about you dude, and it ain't personal.
6) Negativity. Negative people are hard to be around. Their personality says no to life in general, and people tend to avoid them like the plague.

  Bobby McFerrin probably said it best;

Here's a little song I wrote
You might want to sing it note for note
Don't Worry — Be Happy
In every life we have some trouble
But when you worry you make it Double
Don't Worry — Be Happy
Ain't got no place to lay your head,
somebody came and took your bed
Don't Worry, Be Happy
The landlord say your rent is late,
he may have to litigate
Don't Worry — Be Happy
Ain't got not cash, ain't got no style,
ain't got no gal to make you smile
Don't Worry — Be Happy
Cause when you worry your face will frown
and that will bring everybody down
Don't Worry — Be Happy

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